Bishop T.D. Jakes is the pastor of Potter's House in Dallas where he has a congregation of over 30,000. He is also a best selling author of Before You Do.
His best marital experience comes from his 26 year marriage and the counseling he does for his congregation.
Bishop Jakes believes that the most important element of communication is listening.
Through his experience he believes that most couples do communicate it is the listening that goes by the way side.
He has five tips for listening that will improve a relationship
1. listen with your ears - he states "sometimes in conflict we do not listen to what the other person is saying because we are too busy preparing our arguement.
2. listen with your mind - "many times words are based on a point of reference that you may not be aware of." By listening with your mind you can understand where they are coming from and what they have been through.
3. listen with your heart - By listening with your heart you will feel compassion and understanding. By listening with your heart you will not only hear what has been said, but what was meant.
4. listen with humility - repeat what was said to make sure that you understood the conversation correctly. Half of the wars at home start with a misunderstanding.
5.listen with prayer - "it is critical to know that everything with your partner cannot be worked out without the help of God.
Bishop Jakes makes valid points to help with the communication issues in marriage. One half of communication is listening!
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